First of all. If you’re asking that question, you must have some sort of doubt to begin with. Don’t tell or write any jokes if you’re going to have doubt. It’s an all in deal. Don’t half ass your jokes. However, rape jokes can be quite funny in the proper context. Much like racial jokes.
Rape jokes fall in the same cookie jar as suicide jokes. They’re both highly traumatic and delicate situations and it’s hard to crack a joke without it being malicious or worse, just unfunny. It’s really all a situational thing. You don’t just walk up to someone and say, “Did you hear about the 12 year old that was raped by the creepy ass clown?” or something like that. Moreso it has to be used in conjunction with something going on.
For instance. When I’m getting my ass kicked by a Vergil sword loop in Marvel 3.
Which is all the time.
I tend to get those comments. “Just bend over Joe. This is happening.”
It must be used as a quip for someone being mercilessly overpowered and there’s not much you can do. Thus the term itself.
“Man, Hunger Games raped the box office last weekend.”
You see where I’m going with this? I hope so.
But like anything, there are lines. Don’t take the joke beyond a couple of lines. It loses it’s edge and frankly you’ll just look like a damn tryhard.
Also, if you want to make plays on alleged “Rape Culture”, that’s cool. Those silly, stupid things that I’ve never ACTUALLY heard anyone say before (seriously, I’ve never actually heard it come of out of someone’s mouth) such as, “she had it coming.” can be used again at the proper time. It’s all about the timing.
Oh, and jokes are no longer jokes if you’re being malicious. Remember that. But no matter when you make a rape joke, there’s always going to be people on your back saying it’s not funny. The same people who laugh at your jokes in private, but in public are a bunch of prudes. But that’s just the way it works sometimes. Humans are just weird like that. They put up that facade of political correctness, but deep down they’re more sadistic than all of us.
And again, it doesn’t take the severity of the situation away. Because of course it can be life shattering and all that. Everything can and must be joked about in society or we run the risk of taking ourselves too seriously… which can lead to serious problems. We’re just animals folks.